I have a friend who is currently going through her ‘quarter life crisis’ and decided to deal with it in an interesting way. She got her nipple pierced.
Out of interest, I asked (on Twitter) whether anyone else had experienced (or is experiencing) their QLC and how they’ve dealt with it. I got numerous responses, but the most common answer was moving or taking an extended holiday overseas.
I think my QLC is one that cannot be solved with a short term move or a painful piercing hidden underneath my bra. The questions that plague me are about direction and contribution. Am I in the wrong job? Where do I want to be in 5 years? Should i make more time for giving back to the community? Should I do further study? Am I missing the point of being young?
Miss K and Miss R emphasised that you don’t need to have all the answers in your twenties (or even your thirties), to be kind to yourself and just enjoy the ride. Oh if only my brain would switch off and let me!
So I divided my world into sections to establish where I was lacking satisfaction in my life. I rated my current satisfaction out of 10 and this is what I found:
Home/Physical Environment: 8
Partner, Relationship: 10
Personal Growth/Learning: 5
Social Life: 6
This has allowed me to see clearly which areas of my life need more work and how out of balance my satisfaction levels are in different areas.
Where to from here? Okay, well I have made note that I need to change my career, focus on my finances and make time for more recreational activities. I think it’s also important to acknowledge what areas you are satisfied with and be proud of where you stand. Realising that I have a wonderful boyfriend and am taking care of myself health-wise has quietened the persistent QLC voice in my head a little.
As for dealing with the three target areas, this will take some time. Our big holiday is planned for August and 5 weeks overseas doesn’t lend itself to a career move unfortunately. Saving for the trip also impacts on the amount I can spend on recreation and long term plans for my finances.
But for the next couple of months I will be analysing my spending habits, researching fabulous fun activities/hobbies to try to figure out where my strengths and passions lie in terms of career direction in order to implement some serious change when I return from Europe.
I’d be really interested to hear if you’ve experienced a Quarter Life Crisis or are currently trying to balance satisfaction in all areas of your life.