A light ramble…

June 23, 2010 at 9:39 pm (Sweet Nothings/Ramblings)

We’ve made it halfway through the week! I thought I’d do a quick and quirky update for you all on what I have been doing in my offline life and then delve a bit further into the thoughts behind the Be Kind To Yourself post from the other day.

MADE:   My mum smile.
Awww, how cute huh? Seriously, when you haven’t seen your mum in months, it is one of the best things!

WENT:   To be honest, mostly to bed.
It is freezing here in Melbourne at the moment and as much as I cope with winter better than the heat waves of summer – this is even beyond me. DVDs in bed have been the usual for a few nights now until the thermostat decides to be a little more reasonable.

GOT:   A deep tissue massage.
And oh did I need it! My trainer is killing me at our sessions these days. After a tough weights session and sleeping on it funny, this massage was just what my poor back needed. Note: We should all pamper ourselves more often, tell that little guilty voice to shhh!

DID:   Play Cranium with friends of ours over dessert.
My family will tell you that I am not a board game person (much to their dismay) but I have to say that Cranium may just change all this. Of course we girls creamed the boys (who are both sore losers might I add). A fun night, topped off with a bowl of peanut M & Ms when the game got tense!

BEEN:   Reading Eat Pray Love.
Really enjoying it so far but have a strange urge to run off and discover myself in exotic places for a year. Hmmm… Have any of you read it? What did you think?

SAW:   The final episode of Gossip Girl season 3.
I love a good cliffhanger, but only if I can get my hands on the next season and STAT! This is not the case, so I am itching for it to be released.

I also want to follow up on the Be Kind To Yourself post. Thank you to everyone that took the time to comment, email or tweet me their opinions on this post – it was great to get such a positive reaction. It is astounding how many of us are out there beating ourselves up over small things in our life which, to us, equal imperfection.

Where does this desire for perfection come from? Why does everything have to work out just the way we want it to as soon as we want it? Don’t we learn so much more from our failures than our successes?

One of my sins is comparing myself to other women. I do it all the time and it never leaves me feeling good about myself. So why do it? Why keep ogling photos of Scarlett Johansson or Blake Lively only to look at myself in the mirror and tear up? Why compare my career to my friends that have secured jobs as lawyers and doctors only to resent my role in administration? Why lust after the life of a girl wearing head to toe Balmain only to stress about the state of my bank account?

How do we learn to acknowledge the luck and joy in our lives and stop comparing ourselves to others? I wish there was some magic answer (and please, let us know if there is) but being grateful is hard work. That is why I post Things I Love Thursday – a day where I MUST think about everything that has made me smile that week (and hear about the happiness that others are enjoying). I am sure that the more you practice being grateful, the easier it becomes. Become aware of when you have negative feelings and ways that work for you to steer them away. Hopefully some of the ideas in the last post helped get your mind working on some of your own. I would love to hear them.

Where does your perfectionism come from?
How do you switch from envy or self loathing to thoughts of contentment or love?


  1. Vanessa said,

    I like what you said about why you post TiLT, because I feel like my Love 365 project has done sort’ve the same thing for me: I have to force myself to think of something positive about something every day even when a thought doesn’t come really easily. I think the best days are the days when it isn’t easy to think of something or when I’m feeling really down and I can use it to pick me up :)

    • Kimberley said,

      Your Love 365 project is amazing for that. It’s a fabulous idea to help kickstart those positive feelings about yourself that are so easily buried!

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