As a child I had many heroes. My mother and father are obvious choices for their unconditional love and sheer perseverance with me. 1990s Mariah Carey was the voice that made me fall in love with the idea of singing. Wonder Woman kicked ass while looking glamourous and being fairly polite. The movie made me believe that women could be strong and a force to be reckoned with.
But when did Wonder Woman stop being a comic/movie character and infiltrate the lives of females everywhere? Where did this whole idea of being everything to everyone come from? Wonder Woman just had to fight crime – she didn’t have to get a degree, climb both the corporate and social ladders, have children, do charity work, find time to exercise to stay fit and slim, raise those children to the best of her ability and take care of the household in her downtime. There are simply not enough hours in a lifetime to do all the things that we think of as crucial. Why all the pressure?
Maybe it is because we have so much on offer; that we have too many choices and can’t choose a small handful to participate in. Or perhaps it’s pure greed. Or maybe it’s self-inflicted.
There are thousands of blogs on the web that will tell you how to be happy, how to have it all, how to save time and create the life that you want. Often the problem is not that you don’t know how to be happy, it’s just that there is too much pressure to have it all pieced together. If one piece is missing, it is considered a failure. Why?
This is not to say that you shouldn’t have goals – you should. But don’t place too much weight on the outcome. Doesn’t it feel amazing to achieve something you have been eagerly planning and learning about for weeks? If you don’t succeed, you tend to focus on what you have lost. Time, effort, resources – but you have still gained that knowledge and self-discipline. They say you learn more from your failures than your successes. Learn from your mistakes and let the disappointment go.
Perhaps making a list of all that you want your life to be is detrimental to your happiness. Why not enjoy the journey instead of trying to skip to the back of the book in the hope of finding a happy ending? If having it all is your idea of a happy ending, it may never be there.