Live a life you’ll be proud of

October 4, 2010 at 5:21 pm (Quarter Life Crisis) ()

One of the things that terrifies me is waking up one day and realising that I am 45 and can’t account for the last 20 years of my life. I don’t want to get stuck in a rut and forget who I am, what I love and find that I have let the years pass by being bored rather than inspired.

Laura Valerie wrote a recent post on the things that “shock” us out of the monotony of day-to-day life. I read her post while overseas and found myself nodding all the way through (which often happens with her fabulous blog – do check it out). While travelling I thought a lot about how I am currently living my life and how it is/isn’t working for me.

I love the area we live in, how active I am (usually) and that I have a supportive boyfriend. But there is quite a bit that I’d like to work on to keep discovering, growing and feeling truly alive.

Career. See last post – I’m working on it!

Eating habits. Ideally I’d like to grow a little vegetable garden on our balcony and eat 50% organic and local produce. I never thought I’d be a yoga-loving, organic food eating, recycling crusader ‘hippy’ type, but I am and I’m proud of it.

Making the effort to go out. I’d like to meet new people and get out of the house more often! In ‘real life’ I am a very social and bubbly person. I love people. But when you’ve been in a relationship for a while, you tend to become a bit more of a homebody (which I also love but I tire of it easily). You say no to social invitations to watch a DVD or avoid parties to enjoy a quiet dinner at home. No more, I am going to try to embrace every invitation (where humanly possible).

Staying connected with friends. Everyone’s lives are so busy these days that it’s hard to find the time to catch up either online or face to face. I think it’s definitely time to make this a priority. Currently really struggling to reach my goal of 100 letters for the year, but will keep trying.

Feeding my creativity. I need to make the effort to seek inspiration. Go to galleries, stage shows, quirky shops, event and classes. Travelling overseas makes you realise how much your home city has to offer. Coming back home to Melbourne after a long break has renewed my love for the city and its culture. I haven’t felt this excited about exploring around Melbourne since I moved here 2 and a half years ago.  Now it’s about making the effort to find little gems in my own city (and others). I have a little blog project that I’ll post in the next few days that may help with this.

What would you like to work on to help with that ‘stuck in a rut’ feeling?




  1. Hannah said,

    I love this post! I share your fear of wasting my life away, and want to make the effort to create a life that I love every moment of the day. Even though I’ve been through many ‘shock treatments’ over the last three months I find that my natural reaction is to seek my comfort zone and mediocrity – it’s like my mind is uncomfortable with so many changes and new experiences so my instinct is retreat.

    But I need to keep pushing myself so that my instinct changes towards embracing and seeking new and challenging experiences. I won’t know what I love until I take the chance to try it.

    Good luck with your goals – I look forward to reading how they are going! x

    • Kimberley said,

      Thanks Hannah, so glad you enjoyed it! It is always so easy to slip back into our comfort zones and often we don’t realise we’ve done it until we’re stuck again. Taking chances and trying new things as often as possible is a great goal and hopefully we can both keep it up. xx

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  2. x Corrine/Frock & Roll x said,

    I *love* this post, and I SO feel you on your fears. Waking up and realising one day ”%$#* – I’m _ , and I haven’t achieved/tried what I wanted” is actually my biggest fear in life! We HAVE to try and do everything to make ourselves happy and live a life that we’re proud of, because we only get one chance at it!

    That said, there are definitely some areas which I need to step up in. I’m happy with where I’m at with my career and I love what I do, but I’m not sure that I’ve been working as hard as I could have been to create more opportunities in that area – but I’m working on that! :D

    • Kimberley said,

      Hi Corrine, I thought you might be a kindred spirit in this regard! I can see from your blog that you’re definitely taking steps to create more opportunities in terms of your writing. Congratulations and best wishes! xx

  3. Laura said,

    I’m so happy you could relate to my post Kimberley :) Best of luck with your goals lovely! They are all things I need to work on as well (particularly the going out one – I am in a long-term relationship too so I know exactly what you mean). xx

    • Kimberley said,

      Thanks for the comment Laura – I can relate to a whole bunch of your posts, I think they’re great. It’s difficult when in a long term relationship, I am sure it doesn’t have to be, but it’s getting the balance right that’s tricky. xx

  4. Kenya said,

    WOW. I really enjoyed reading your blog. For some time now, I thought I was the only person who thought about things like this. Since, I graduated from grad school, I have been inundated with fear about being a grown-up…I look at my parents and I am like, when did they become so “mediocre”. I def don’t want my life to become like that…but as I age, I can understand how it happns…life happens and you just submit to doing what works instead of what you love. Well, here’s to doing what you love…thanks for the inspiration today.

    • Kimberley said,

      What a lovely comment Kenya – thank you so much! I know what you mean about looking at your parents and other adults around and thinking ‘when did they give up?’
      I hope I have helped inspire you to pursue what you love and making it work. xx

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